So I’m going to start off this post with two statements.
I know y’all are having sex. Well most of us at least so no beating around the bush here.Abstinence is the best form of birth control and prevention for STDs.
Now that we’re all agreed on those two things, let’s get into it. Safe sex is a very broad topic and one that can easily go from a light dialogue among friends to some boring debate about what is and what isn’t, what you do and what you shouldn’t. And from my short time on this planet, I know if there’s one thing a lot of young people hate, especially those in their late teens/early twenties, is being told what to do and what not to do. That being said, I’m not going to tow that line. Today, I’m going to express my views on certain aspects on safety in the bedroom and I’ll let you react and form your opinions based on that.
Did he use a condom the last time you did it?
Stupid question right? Ok, take a step back and ask yourself again. Did he REALLY use one? Did I check or was it just so good that I was totally carried away? Do I trust him so much that I just let go completely?
Look, sex without condoms is heaven. No better word to use here because the man in heaven designed it himself and like we all know, dude is flawless so you can only expect same from a process he personally engineered. Now, every guy knows this and the truth is no one will choose to have brown rice when they can have sexy white or even basmati rice (well, not a lot of people). We are not just about that struggle life. So don’t be surprised when that sweet faced, awesome boo of yours asks for you to do it raw.
He will ask and you will mull it over and probably come back to your senses and say no but for the youngins, some of y’all may not yet have the experience to tell the difference between a Gold Circle and a Durex the moment he slides in. Heck, sometimes you almost have to ask – are you in? The older or rather more experienced women probably know what I’m talking about but the point here is how many women actually check to make sure their guy is putting on a condom?
I know guys are reading this and hating me right now because the last thing you want is to be questioned by your opponent on the battlefield. You’re focused with your game face on and aiming for that bulls eye and she goes – “erm, babe, do you have a condom on?” Talk about mood killer of life.
Just so you know, ladies, this is not what I’m asking you to do. Find creative ways to answer this question. Guide him in or make putting it on part of foreplay, whatever, just make sure you try as much as possible to answer this question for yourself every single time you do it, you don’t want to be surprised.
There’s a brand for everyone.
We are all different in our own ways. Some are tall, others are not so tall, we have our A-cup family and there’s also the super D’s; I think it’s one of the things that makes this world so beautiful. Now, this diversity also exists when it comes to sex. I mean, guys have different shapes and sizes of instruments and women respond to these instruments in different ways. People have come to understand and appreciate this and this is why brands like Trojan and Durex have spent a whole lot of money researching sex and how different ways people engage in it.
It’s a really interesting field and if you have time you can read up details of research conducted by condom and even sex toys manufacturing firms online. The point here however is, the next time you ask a guy to use a condom and he says he’s too big or the next time she tells you she reacted to your condom, don’t get mad. Y’all just need to spend some time doing some research. Nowadays you have all and I mean ALL kinds of condoms, many contraceptives and so on. So you really have no excuse, you just need to go out there and find what works for you and the best way is to do it with your partner.
Postinor is NOT Vitamin C.
Another stupid point right? Like you expect everyone to know this right? Well, if you’ve done research on sex like some of us, you will begin to understand how women have come to abuse this particular contraceptive. Let me take a quick quote from a site:
Postinor-2 is an emergency contraceptive only. Postinor-2 is not intended as a regular method of contraception. It is used to prevent pregnancy when taken within 72 hours of unprotected intercourse. It is estimated that Postinor-2 will prevent 85% of expected pregnancies. 95% of expected pregnancies will be prevented if taken within the first 24 hours, declining to 58% if taken between 48 hours and 72 hours after unprotected intercourse.
It is not known whether Postinor-2 is effective if taken more than 72 hours after unprotected intercourse.
Postinor-2 will not prevent you from catching sexually transmitted diseases. Ask your doctor or pharmacist if you have any questions about why you are taking Postinor-2.
I think that explains it all so I’ll just move to the next point.
Forget Safe Days.
I admire a lot of our women in this generation. They are not only strong and independent but most of them are super intelligent. But you see, sometimes, just sometimes, being a little too ‘smart’ can be a problem especially when you’re dealing with ‘simple’ logical things. I’ve spoken to quite a few young fathers who told me how their girlfriends made them have unprotected sex that eventually led to her getting pregnant and having a baby.
“I’m safe,” she said. Say what now? Safe from who or what? And then she’ll insist and say “But baby, your condoms hurt me.” Like I said earlier, who needs to be really persuaded to pick white rice over brown rice? Before you know it you’ll be swimming in paradise while millions of little Johnny are swimming up inside her, till one of them lucky boys spots lil’ missy in some hidden corner.
The point here, if there’s no 100% guaranty even with a contraceptive like Postinor, what makes you think that ‘safe period’ is really safe? I’ve read about women that had ‘safe sex’ during or immediately after their period and still got pregnant. How do you explain that? As far as I’m concerned, only married folks should gamble with this ‘safe period’ thing.
Ok, so there you go, those are my thoughts and now it’s time to read yours. What’s your take on safe sex? Do you bother with it? If yes, tell us your preference and if no, why? What’s your take on condoms, Postinor and safe days? This is TNC, kindly refrain from the giving clichéd comments, like I said, we know y’all are having sex so let’s make this a constructive conversation especially for the younger ones reading who almost have no clue.